Is Caitlyn Jenner Still a Man?

Whoa, wait, don’t light up your torches yet, let’s have a grown up conversation before you guys burn my house to the ground in the name of social justice.

Gender is a complicated thing. It is, but it shouldn’t be. If you assume gender is simply the difference between two different kinds of human reproductive systems, life becomes a lot easier. If you spend a minute thinking about it, anything else we attribute to the term “gender” is, sadly, social prejudices and stereotypes. Dresses are feminine. Pink is feminine. Short hair is masculine. Skirts are feminine. Military boots are masculine. Stereotypes are stupid.

I’ve been reading about concepts like gender fluidity and transgenderism, and the sentence “gender is not about your genitalia” pops up a lot. But gender really is about genitalia. It is about XX and XY. About it and nothing more.

Why is having a penis or a vagina such a big deal for some people? How come something so insignificant can be a barrier when it comes to becoming who you really are? Why do we call it evolution if intelligence has made us so dumb?

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Caitlyn Jenner on the cover of Vanity Fair

Some months ago, Caitlyn Jenner appeared in the cover of Vanity Fair after her surgery and the cyber world was so happy for her. I was happy for her. Countless times that cover has been posted accompanied with quotes like “she’s so beautiful” and comments alike, but my question is, why nobody talked about how beautiful she was before the surgery? Or, why did she had to undergo surgery in order to become beautiful or in order for people to notice her beauty. I’ve always thought that beauty is about acceptance. Acceptance of oneself. At least that’s how it starts. By accepting your own body the way it is and accepting that there’s nothing wrong about any part of it. By accepting that what society considers flaws, in fact, really aren’t.

Sadly, way too many people think that surgery or change is needed to become who you are. The way I see it, Caitlyn’s Jenner surgery has nothing to do with gender. It has everything to do with pre-conceived ideals of beauty.

I’d say there’s no difference between the surgery that Caitlyn underwent, and the surgery her daughter Kylie underwent.

“In order to get to this point, Jenner has had to undergo many surgeries, such as shaving down her adam’s apple, facial feminizing, a nose job, breast implants and more. As far as the public knows, Jenner has not removed her penis yet, but other surgeries have been confirmed. In fact, one of Caitlyn’s doctors, Dr. Harrison Lee, told E! that Caitlyn’s surgeries with him totaled an estimated $70,000. When Caitlyn had undergone the 10-hour facial feminization surgery, the procedure involved changes to the hairline, forehead, jaw, and chin.”

Nose job, breast implants, changes in the hairline… how many of these things have to do with gender? Absolutely none. And how many of these have to do with whim? Absolutely all of them. She can’t carry a baby in her womb, she can’t breastfeed a child, what’s the point of having surgery in order to “change” your gender if absolutely nothing changes? Is this the message we are sending to kids? That they need surgery in order to wear what they want and not be called freaks? That they have to call themselves something they are not in order to justify what they do and who they like or how they dress?

This reminds me of a quote from a french movie called La Source des Femmes. At one point, a woman replies to a man: “And if Man desires woman, it’s the will of allah. But this doesn’t make us either slaves nor objects to cover just to stifle men’s lust. You close your eyes! Be strong… control your satanic desires yourself. Cover your eyes, not our faces!”

Are we so selfish as a society, that in order to be comfortable looking at a man wearing a dress, we need them to change their looks? Are we so naive to think that a man wearing a dress is a freak but if that man undergoes surgery so his looks are closer to the beauty standards, then it’s okay for him to wear that dress?

Why is she in the cover of Vanity Fair and not Jeffree Star or Fat Mike? Because Vanity Fair wants to make money. That’s why Caitlyn is on the cover. Do you think they care about beauty or acceptance? Do you think they decided to have Caitlyn on the cover because they sympathized with her struggle? Probably not, but I’m sure they sold a bunch of copies of that issue. I’m sure as they were doing the photoshot they could already hear the money falling from the sky and into their pockets. If you want to talk about acceptance and beauty, let’s have a look at the two examples I mentioned before.

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Fat Mike of NoFX and singer Jeffree Star

Notorious punk rocker and NoFx frontman Fat Mike (left) wears dresses and carries pink purses and nobody makes a big deal out of it. Model, make-up artist, and singer Jeffree Star (right) wears pink, make-up, skirts and high-heels and either nobody makes a big deal out of it.

Why? because there’s nothing to be upset about it.

In that sense, these two are, in my opinion, stronger role models when it comes to beauty and acceptance, than any Kardashian will ever be. No surgery was needed to become who they really are. Their genitalia wasn’t a barrier when it came to decide what they would wear. I don’t see their gender stopping them from being awesome. They will probably never be in the cover of Vanity Fair either. They wouldn’t sell.

We are all becoming so dumb. I can see a future where we all are clones of some beauty stereotypes that these fashion and beauty bibles dictate. We are so dumb. We look at these prejudices and pretend they are immutable. Like some natural law. Like a physics law. Like that woman who decided she won’t marry homosexuals in court because she read that homosexuality is a sin in some old fairy tale book.

Caitlyn Jenner had to change her appearance, her body, the way she dressed, her name (HER NAME! something as meaningless and irrelevant as a damn name), the pronoun people use to address her, her nose, her jaw line. And for what? For nothing. To justify the make-up, to justify what she wears or how she moves. Because a man wearing a dress is not considered beautiful by most individuals.

But hey, don’t get this wrong, I’m not blaming her at all. She’s a martyr for the cause. I’m blaming you. I’m blaming myself. I’m blaming human stupidity. I’m blaming everyone who thinks and tells you that your gender is stopping you from wearing something, doing something, or liking someone. I’m blaming everyone that needs people to change in order to feel comfortable looking at them.

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16 Responses

  1. 8675Thr

    Did you even talk to a single trans person before you wrote this? It’s not about the damn dresses and make-up. Drag was already a thing available to us, if that was all we wanted. It’s easy to claim anything is shit after you’ve just pulled it out of your ass.

  2. Your words sound nice and all… in the context of having no idea what you’re talking about. Gender dysphoria is a thing, do some research then maybe take another swing, this time leaving out the ad hoc nonsense involving preconceived notions of beauty. Transgenderism isn’t about looking pretty, that’s a very shallow and reductive view.

  3. This is as far as I went in reading this, “I’ve been reading about concepts like gender fluidity and transgenderism, and the sentence “gender is not about your genitalia” pops up a lot. But gender really is about genitalia. It is about XX and XY. About it and nothing more.” In this single thought you have shown you might have ‘read’ but you did not comprehend.
    Gender is your internal identification, biological sex is your reproductive system and the XX,XY argument is not the beginning, nor the end of the story.
    Do yourself the favor of researching your topic thoroughly and not posting assumptions and half understood ideas.

    1. Deborah

      Cait, my opinion, your still a man, you still have a penis…..period! Basically just cause you dress like a female does NOT make you such. You are a cross dresser plan and simple. Until you make the big step and get a pussy, you are still a male.Got it!

    1. Karra

      Those are chromosomal abnormalities which can affect mental & physical development, but have nothing to do with gender fluidity :/. Although I agree life is full of diversity.

  4. If only this was as simple as the writer seems to think. I am certain that the people that were mentioned (Fat Mike and Jeffree Star) cop a lot of flack for wearing the clothes they do, as it makes them easy targets. Personally, I want to have a normal life and spend time with the partner I love. To put it simply, after full GRS/SRS/Gender Affirmation Surgery, I feel more natural than I have ever before and I am for the first time in my life happy to be me and wanting to live my life.

  5. Aran

    Maybe you are right in some point of views but as a person who has worked in the field of gender study i would like to make a segregation in between . Being woman or man dose not have anything to with genitals but it dose !!! there are considerable debates on that but i believe if i feel always to have a woman inside its just command from my mind which has a strong root in a human spirit . But there is significant issue such Sexual orientation which classified the genders from each other .Humans being over the ages tried to segregate the sexual feeling from Gender identity .at same time new ideology started to grow out officially .New grassroot throughout the revolutionary walks approved the homosexuality and transgenderism . But finally ancient pattern of genders became such the belief in our mind to cut society to the different division “white and black “. Stereotype is not something to be define by itself . Its attached to us to our mind .Normally those who have sexual tendency to the women want them to feminine which suppose to be appeared stereotypely by the aesthetic stuffs and for the men vice versa . Over the ages women ,effiminate guys, real gays praised the masculinity while men and Lesbians had done the same. women with a dick and men with no Penis are still in their true skins but when it comes to the reality towards the history transsexual are a real woman or man after undergoing confirmation surgery .according to the current research chromosomes can be altered someday hence if the medical sicence is not still complete enough deal with that dosnt mean people with gender issues such the transsexuals are not real gender .

  6. having the parts of a man make you a man, by definition, now that man can be addressed as female, but should not be treated as a woman, still a dude in a dress, should use the men’s latrine to pee

  7. C.C.

    If it has a dick, walks like a dick, talks like a dick…it’s a man. Bruce Jenner is a man, an adult male. The fact that he wears a costume of feminine stereotypes and has had surgeries to attempt imitation of a more female-typical form means nothing and doesn’t change the objective truth that he is a man.

    > Gender is a complicated thing. It is, but it shouldn’t be.

    It shouldn’t even be a thing. There is sex and there are sex roles. ‘Gender’ is bollocks and always has been.

    > If you assume gender is simply the difference between two different kinds of human reproductive systems, life becomes a lot easier.

    Those are sex differences you numpty.

    > If you spend a minute thinking about it, anything else we attribute to the term “gender” is, sadly, social prejudices and stereotypes.

    Don’t even need a minute, thanks. Given that your previous line was about sex differences and not ‘gender’, the truth is that the concept of ‘gender’ is nothing but social prejudices and stereotypes.

    > I’ve been reading about concepts like gender fluidity and transgenderism, and the sentence “gender is not about your genitalia” pops up a lot. But gender really is about genitalia. It is about XX and XY. About it and nothing more.

    Nope, you’re thinking ‘sex’ again. Get it right.

    > Why is having a penis or a vagina such a big deal for some people? How come something so insignificant can be a barrier when it comes to becoming who you really are?

    It is a big deal because there are three factors that greatly affect how we are socialised in our society: Sex, Class, and Race. There tend to be distinct difference between female and male socialisations. This is why there are noticeable differences between most women and most men despite the fact we are born with brains showing no significant physical difference (brain not sexed at birth). This is not at all insignificant.

    > Nose job, breast implants, changes in the hairline… how many of these things have to do with gender?

    Nothing at all, and it’s not about ‘gender’. It’s about attempting to imitate that which he believes to be the female form. It’s about imitating the opposite sex.

    > She can’t carry a baby in her womb, she can’t breastfeed a child, what’s the point of having surgery in order to “change” your gender if absolutely nothing changes?

    No he cannot, and that’s because he is male. HE is a man. Sex is immutable. A man cannot become a woman. Deep down these sex-deluded individuals know this so they use the ever-changing, undefined ‘gender’ to justify these changes because they see the vague concept of ‘gender’ as something they can control whilst they know they cannot control their physical sex.

    > Are we so selfish as a society, that in order to be comfortable looking at a man wearing a dress, we need them to change their looks? Are we so naive to think that a man wearing a dress is a freak but if that man undergoes surgery so his looks are closer to the beauty standards, then it’s okay for him to wear that dress?

    You ask the right questions, but with the flawed premise that this is a problem with society in general. This is a problem with about 0.3% of the population being deluded about their sex. If a man wants to wear a dress, brilliant! He should be able to do that. But neither the desire to wear the dress nor the wearing of the dress mean that he is somehow female. This is also a problem with men in general as they tend to be raised to believe that a stereotypically feminine man is inferior or broken, less of a man. This is not a women’s problem. It’s a men problem. Change male socialisation and this will change.

    > Caitlyn Jenner had to change her appearance, her body, the way she dressed, her name (HER NAME! something as meaningless and irrelevant as a damn name), the pronoun people use to address her, her nose, her jaw line. And for what? For nothing.

    No, all of these were personal choices that he made. He didn’t have to do any of it. However, it sure as hell has helped keep the Kardashians unfortunately relevant, right?

    > I’m not blaming her at all. She’s a martyr for the cause. I’m blaming you. I’m blaming myself.

    How have I reached the end of the article without ever reading you make a case for whether this man is a man? This is disappointing. With a title like ‘is _ still a man?’ there damn well better be something in the article that answers that question. Instead you rambled onabout some meaningless shite for a few minutes, and never answered the question, but I suppose implied you believe this man is somehow female because you bolded ‘her’. Clever.

    There is only one group who are to blame for this mess…MEN. Men have been in control of civilisation since the beginning. When we observe the dynamics of the couple of aboriginal matriarchal tribes in existence we do not see the same kinds of sex roles we have in our civilisation which was built by men. Don’t blame yourself, don’t blame women…blame men. They created the structure of the society in which we live. They decided what men and women are supposed to do. They are the ones fighting the hardest to keep sex roles alive.

  8. Jantush

    Wow. Men have become such weak manginas. Bruce Jenner is just a transvestite. Even with chopping off the penis and taking hormones, always a man. Now mental illness is coined transgenderism

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